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Am I ‘Normal’?

‘Normal’ is a relative term. When it comes to sex and relationships, whatever makes you feel happy and fulfilled is the only ‘normal’ you should be striving for, and whatever that looks like is up to you.
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Dear Bulma,

Is something wrong with me? I’m 27 and haven’t dated since I was 21. The few people I was with didn’t last but a few months. I feel content by myself and living and working for myself. I didn’t have any bad dating experience prior. People are telling me that’s not normal and that maybe something did happen and my brain is blocking whatever that is from surfacing because maybe I’m not ready to deal with it? I don’t recall ever going through anything so bad that my brain would try to protect me from it. I’ve also never had a physical relationship with anyone except this one girl in Atlanta and it was only fingers and it only lasted like 10 minutes.

Is there a scientific answer to my situation? And how do I explain to my nosy friends once and for all that I’m good?

A Vegebul Shipper

First of all, no. There is nothing wrong with you. ‘Normal’ is a relative term. When it comes to sex and relationships, whatever makes you feel happy and fulfilled is the only ‘normal’ you should be striving for, and whatever that looks like is up to you. 

 

Human beings (and Saiyans too) have many types of ‘normal’ when it comes to how we prioritize romantic relationships. There’s nothing wrong with you if you simply don’t desire to date or have sex, or only want to do these things if you meet the right person. (My own dear husband would be an excellent example here. I like to joke that he’s ‘Bulmasexual.’ 😉

 

That said, it’s all about being real with yourself about your needs and desires. If you truly are happy staying single, that’s fantastic. You do you, and don’t let anyone’s opinion make you feel pressured. However, if you, deep down, truly do want to be out there dating around and feel that there might be something holding you back, there’s no shame in seeking the help of a professional. Just make sure whatever path you choose to take is about what YOU want, not about fulfilling the expectations of anyone else. 

 

Lastly, you don’t owe anyone an explanation, but if you want to try to help them understand, using a term like asexual, demisexual, or aromantic and encouraging them to educate themselves might help, assuming this applies to you. But only you, with the help of a professional, if needed, can decide that. 

 

That’s all for now! Use the form below to submit your own burning question.

Until next time,

XoXo Bulma
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Bulma Briefs

Bulma Briefs is a well-respected scientist with a genius intellect. She is the current CEO of Capsule Corporation in West City, and the proud inventor of the gravity simulator, the dragonball radars, and the time capsule. She has several PhDs in science engineer, biomachanics, physics, psychology, and computer science. At the age of 15, Bulma graduated at the top of her class from university, and has since been training herself to take over her father's legacy.

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